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2022-08-24T03:55:30Z

Kateapnp: /* Just a comment on the blurb in the main page underneath "Outmoded terminology" section */ omg I can't get it right oops

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== Just a comment on the blurb in the main page underneath "Outmoded terminology" section==
Absolutely love that this has been said, and strongly second this notion. It aligns with the perspective on thought diversity I wrote about in the "Job interviews" page. I actually think it is unfortunately an unpopular opinion to accept such differences in vocabulary among other autistic people, so I really appreciate seeing this rare but really awesome sentiment! (this is not to say that I condone the use of outdated vocabulary, but I DO condone being nonjudgmental towards people who use said vocabulary.) this is kateapnp sorry I may not be doing this right oops --[[User:Kateapnp|Kateapnp]] is there a way to get the user info to auto populate lol oops. idk I tried

== Deleting pages ==

Is it possible to actually delete a page (for example if it's redundant or spam), or do you need to make it a redirect? If so, where would you redirect a spam page to? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 01:44, 24 August 2022 (UTC)

== Test ==

I've never tried using a wiki discussion page before [[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:13, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: It's pretty horrible isn't it :D --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 20:39, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: Yup lol --[[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:47, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Dyscalculia & page linking ==

Dyscalculia is in both the "Psychology" and the "Information processing difference" sections. Should it be in just one, or both? Expanding on that, should other pages be linked in different sections, or limited to one? --[[User:Fire Eider|Fire Eider]] ([[User talk:Fire Eider|talk]]) 16:57, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: I'd say it doesn't belong in psychology anyway because it's very much a 100% neurological thing that either is a feature of your brain or isn't. The second question is great, and I have no idea :D How do other wikis like Wikipedia handle this? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 17:24, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Is it okay to add a new section to the Main Page? (yes) ==

Hi, I was wondering about another major section relating to stages of diagnosis. e.g. as below. [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 01:25 23 August 2022 (BST)

: Oh, I think this would be a great idea! Feel free to add it to the main page! And by the way, you can just...do it, without asking; we're still very much in the "chaotic experimentation phase" :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 00:40, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:: Thanks! LOL! I spent 3 hours studying the help on formatting syntax, came back and the work was already done! :) I'll get up to speed and do something useful soon hopefully! [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:21, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

::: No worries, and hey – your idea of adding this section already was a very useful contribution to the page! :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 02:23, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:::: Thanks! <thumbs-up emoji> [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:52, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Welcome to ActuallyAutistic Wiki! ==

Hello! Is this thing on...? [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 23:24, 22 August 2022 (UTC)

Talk:Main Page

2022-08-24T03:55:11Z

Kateapnp:

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== Just a comment on the blurb in the main page underneath "Outmoded terminology" section==
Absolutely love that this has been said, and strongly second this notion. It aligns with the perspective on thought diversity I wrote about in the "Job interviews" page. I actually think it is unfortunately an unpopular opinion to accept such differences in vocabulary among other autistic people, so I really appreciate seeing this rare but really awesome sentiment! (this is not to say that I condone the use of outdated vocabulary, but I DO condone being nonjudgmental towards people who use said vocabulary.) this is kateapnp sorry I may not be doing this right oops [[User:Kateapnp|Kateapnp]] is there a way to get the user info to auto populate lol oops. idk I tried

== Deleting pages ==

Is it possible to actually delete a page (for example if it's redundant or spam), or do you need to make it a redirect? If so, where would you redirect a spam page to? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 01:44, 24 August 2022 (UTC)

== Test ==

I've never tried using a wiki discussion page before [[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:13, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: It's pretty horrible isn't it :D --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 20:39, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: Yup lol --[[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:47, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Dyscalculia & page linking ==

Dyscalculia is in both the "Psychology" and the "Information processing difference" sections. Should it be in just one, or both? Expanding on that, should other pages be linked in different sections, or limited to one? --[[User:Fire Eider|Fire Eider]] ([[User talk:Fire Eider|talk]]) 16:57, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: I'd say it doesn't belong in psychology anyway because it's very much a 100% neurological thing that either is a feature of your brain or isn't. The second question is great, and I have no idea :D How do other wikis like Wikipedia handle this? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 17:24, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Is it okay to add a new section to the Main Page? (yes) ==

Hi, I was wondering about another major section relating to stages of diagnosis. e.g. as below. [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 01:25 23 August 2022 (BST)

: Oh, I think this would be a great idea! Feel free to add it to the main page! And by the way, you can just...do it, without asking; we're still very much in the "chaotic experimentation phase" :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 00:40, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:: Thanks! LOL! I spent 3 hours studying the help on formatting syntax, came back and the work was already done! :) I'll get up to speed and do something useful soon hopefully! [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:21, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

::: No worries, and hey – your idea of adding this section already was a very useful contribution to the page! :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 02:23, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:::: Thanks! <thumbs-up emoji> [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:52, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Welcome to ActuallyAutistic Wiki! ==

Hello! Is this thing on...? [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 23:24, 22 August 2022 (UTC)

Talk:Main Page

2022-08-24T03:52:43Z

Kateapnp: just wanted to add a nice lil comment about something nice I noticed lol

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== Just a comment on the blurb in the main page underneath "Outmoded terminology" section==
Absolutely love that this has been said, and strongly second this notion. It aligns with the perspective on thought diversity I wrote about in the "Job interviews" page. I actually think it is unfortunately an unpopular opinion to accept such differences in vocabulary among other autistic people, so I really appreciate seeing this rare but really awesome sentiment! (this is not to say that I condone the use of outdated vocabulary, but I DO condone being nonjudgmental towards people who use said vocabulary.) this is kateapnp sorry I may not be doing this right oops

== Deleting pages ==

Is it possible to actually delete a page (for example if it's redundant or spam), or do you need to make it a redirect? If so, where would you redirect a spam page to? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 01:44, 24 August 2022 (UTC)

== Test ==

I've never tried using a wiki discussion page before [[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:13, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: It's pretty horrible isn't it :D --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 20:39, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: Yup lol --[[User:AutExplorer|AutExplorer]] ([[User talk:AutExplorer|talk]]) 20:47, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Dyscalculia & page linking ==

Dyscalculia is in both the "Psychology" and the "Information processing difference" sections. Should it be in just one, or both? Expanding on that, should other pages be linked in different sections, or limited to one? --[[User:Fire Eider|Fire Eider]] ([[User talk:Fire Eider|talk]]) 16:57, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

: I'd say it doesn't belong in psychology anyway because it's very much a 100% neurological thing that either is a feature of your brain or isn't. The second question is great, and I have no idea :D How do other wikis like Wikipedia handle this? --[[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 17:24, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Is it okay to add a new section to the Main Page? (yes) ==

Hi, I was wondering about another major section relating to stages of diagnosis. e.g. as below. [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 01:25 23 August 2022 (BST)

: Oh, I think this would be a great idea! Feel free to add it to the main page! And by the way, you can just...do it, without asking; we're still very much in the "chaotic experimentation phase" :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 00:40, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:: Thanks! LOL! I spent 3 hours studying the help on formatting syntax, came back and the work was already done! :) I'll get up to speed and do something useful soon hopefully! [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:21, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

::: No worries, and hey – your idea of adding this section already was a very useful contribution to the page! :) [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 02:23, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

:::: Thanks! <thumbs-up emoji> [[User:Russell Cannon|Russell Cannon]] ([[User talk:Russell Cannon|talk]]) 02:52, 23 August 2022 (UTC)

== Welcome to ActuallyAutistic Wiki! ==

Hello! Is this thing on...? [[User:Fochti|Fochti]] ([[User talk:Fochti|talk]]) 23:24, 22 August 2022 (UTC)

Team player

2022-08-24T03:45:58Z

Kateapnp: just added a note - is there a page on sarcasm? i'm gonna look. I would link to it here then

[Employee] is a "real team player" may be code for they are very agreeable or a people-pleaser, and this may or may not indicate that this person tends to support the perspectives of others rather than advocating for their own stances. This phrase may also be used SARCASTICALLY to imply that the individual is perceived as being the opposite of a "team player," as in they might be viewed as argumentative, contrarian, selfish, or unsupportive of colleagues (just because someone perceives this to be the case about someone does not mean that it is true). (Is there a page on sarcasm?)
When a job application states that they are looking for a "team player," this may mean that they are looking for someone who will "stick to the status quo."

Team player

2022-08-24T03:45:01Z

Kateapnp: Created page with "[Employee] is a "real team player" may be code for they are very agreeable or a people-pleaser, and this may or may not indicate that this person tends to support the perspectives of others rather than advocating for their own stances. This phrase may also be used SARCASTICALLY to imply that the individual is perceived as being the opposite of a "team player," as in they might be viewed as argumentative, contrarian, selfish, or unsupportive of colleagues (just because so..."

[Employee] is a "real team player" may be code for they are very agreeable or a people-pleaser, and this may or may not indicate that this person tends to support the perspectives of others rather than advocating for their own stances. This phrase may also be used SARCASTICALLY to imply that the individual is perceived as being the opposite of a "team player," as in they might be viewed as argumentative, contrarian, selfish, or unsupportive of colleagues (just because someone perceives this to be the case about someone does not mean that it is true). When a job application states that they are looking for a "team player," this may mean that they are looking for someone who will "stick to the status quo."

Main Page

2022-08-24T03:38:25Z

Kateapnp: /* Office & work dynamics */

Welcome to the '''ActuallyAutistic Wiki'''! This is a community-driven guide to all aspects of autism, allism, and helping build bridges between neurotypes. It emerged recently from the #ActuallyAutistic community on Twitter.

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== ActuallyAutistic terminology ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autism]]
* [[Autistic burnout]]
* [[Autistic inertia]] / [[Inertia]] (possible duplicate; could also be merged with [[Executive dysfunction]]?)
* [[Autistic joy]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfixation]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Infodumping]]
* [[Justice sensitivity]]
* [[Late diagnosis]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neuropeer]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Parallel play]]
* [[Rejection sensitive dysphoria]]
* [[Ritual]]
* [[Routine]]
* [[Safe foods]]
* [[Savant]]
* [[Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoon theory]]
* [[Stimming]]

== Outmoded terminology ==

While many autists have moved away from these terms, some continue to use them to describe their experience. Please remember that people may have complex reasons for the words they choose, and that differences in vocabulary are okay. In short, while it's important to understand how these outdated terms play to most autists, it's also not helpful to police other people's word choices.

* [[Asperger syndrome]]
* [[Functioning labels|High- and low-functioning]]
* [[The autism spectrum]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Gossip]]
* [[Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy]]
* [[Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Theory of mind]]

== Allistic communication & miscommunication ==

* [[Body language]]
* [[Common sense]]
* [[Common Sense]] (Different content, should be merged.)
* [[Defence mechanism|Defence mechanisms]] (Put a lot of other stuff in here about disagreeing with people in general. Not sure if some of it should go elsewhere.)
* [[Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expression|Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cue|Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]
* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Community hashtags]] ([[Autistic community]] was already created and maybe we could just put a section about hashtags in there?)
* [[Podcasts by Autistic creators]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[Augmentative and alternative communication|AAC]]
* [[Autism passport]]
* [[Clear instructions]]
* [[Hidden disabilities sunflower]]
* [[Noise-cancelling headphones]]
* [[Support networks and organisations]]

== Culture-specific differences ==

* [[Ask and guess cultures]]
* [[High and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach and coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Overlapping neurotypes|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Problems with autism research ==

* [[Autism Speaks]]
* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Bias]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Functioning labels]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[History of autism]]
* [[Stigma]]

== How to help ==

(I have no idea what the purpose of this section and the page below is supposed to be?)

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Applied_Behavior_Analysis|Applied behavior analysis]]
* [[Depression]]
* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Information processing differences ==

* [[Aphasia]]
* [[Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]
* [[Hyperlexia]]
* [[Prosopagnosia]]
* [[Synesthesia]]

== Office & work dynamics ==

* [[Corporate buzzwords]]
* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]] - ended up writing like a short essay in this one which boils down to the importance of respecting diversity of thought on this wiki. Maybe it would be better suited to copy into another page, but not sure which?
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Senses ==

Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.

* [[Auditory perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Sensory sensitivity]]
* [[Olfactory perception|Smell]]
* [[Gustatory perception|Taste]]
* [[Tactile perception|Texture]]
* [[Vestibulary perception]]
* [[Visual perception|Vision]]

== I have no idea where to put this page so I'll just put it here and hope somebody else will move it later to a more appropriate place ==

You can put stuff that doesn't fit anywhere else (yet) here.

* [[Miscellaneous terms]] - for similar/confusing terms and definitions that probably better in one place rather than multiple short articles

* [[Gender]]

== Meta ==

* [[Community guidelines]]
* [[Style guidelines]]

== Discussion ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages]. Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Feedback, questions and suggestions]]
* [[Talk:Meta]]
* [[Talk:Miscellaneous]]

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Job interviews

2022-08-24T03:24:05Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed that someone went in and made some changes. While I am glad that this person wanted to contribute to the wiki and share their perspective, I see that they also chose to delete some of mine. While I recognize that anyone currently has the power to do this by the nature of this collaborative effort, and I recognize that autistic brains may favor viewing things in absolutes/"rules," I do think that it will be important moving forward for contributors of the wiki to be aware that we must account for diversity of thought.

Even though there are many ways that autistic people relate to each other which distinguish us from allistics (which is why this wiki is necessary in the first place!), autistic people may have very different experiences of certain scenarios due to various intertwined factors including diversity, culture, social groups/other communities one belongs to, geographical location, and even just random chance.

With that being said, I do not feel it is helpful at this time, in MOST circumstances, to delete someone's perspective just because it conflicts with one's own. Rather, I think we should make an effort to use language which implies that "your mileage may vary," as opposed to absolute statements such as "do *not* do X." When there are disagreements (which will be inevitable moving forward!), perhaps we should avoid simply deleting the perspectives of others (unless those perspectives are CLEARLY harmful and factually inaccurate - I am not sure if that applies to a suggestion about following up on job applications). However, anyone should feel free, and I would in fact encourage people to contribute differing perspectives. When posting conflicting information, we should try to be respectful of each others' differences. I think that it will be vitally important for this wiki to demonstrate that ALL perspectives are valid.

This is just my suggestion for how I would advise we all move forward with the wiki at this early stage, and I think this speaks to a pretty crucial consideration regarding the feasibility of this project. It is inherently difficult to write a "how-to guide" to life, because there are really NO firm rules when it comes to human socialization (that's what makes it so frustratingly difficult!) Therefore, we must try to account for diversity of experiences as best as we can.

Overall, please try to keep in mind that just because YOU have had a single unfortunate experience, this does not mean that all other autistic people will "definitely" or even "most likely" have this experience. In order for this wiki to best help autistic people, I think it is vital for us all to try our very best to respect each other's unique contributions.

All the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T03:21:03Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed that someone went in and made some changes. While I am glad that this person wanted to contribute to the wiki and share their perspective, I see that they also chose to delete some of mine. While I recognize that anyone currently has the power to do this by the nature of this collaborative effort, and I recognize that autistic brains may favor viewing things in absolutes/"rules," I do think that it will be important moving forward for contributors of the wiki to be aware that we must account for diversity of thought.

Even though there are many ways that autistic people relate to each other which distinguish us from allistics (which is why this wiki is necessary in the first place!), autistic people may have very different experiences of certain scenarios due to various intertwined factors including diversity, culture, social groups/other communities one belongs to, geographical location, and even just random chance.

With that being said, I do not feel it is helpful at this time, in MOST circumstances, to delete someone's perspective just because it conflicts with one's own. Rather, I think we should make an effort to use language which implies that "your mileage may vary," as opposed to absolute statements such as "do *not* do X." When there are disagreements (which will be inevitable moving forward!), perhaps we should avoid simply deleting the perspectives of others (unless those perspectives are CLEARLY harmful and factually inaccurate - I am not sure if that applies to a suggestion about following up on job applications). However, anyone should feel free to contribute conflicting perspectives (as long as they are respectful about it and are not just attempting to invalidate others)!. It will be vitally important for us to demonstrate that ALL perspectives are valid.

This is just my suggestion for how I would advise we all move forward with the wiki at this early stage, and I think this speaks to a pretty crucial consideration regarding the feasibility of this project. It is inherently difficult to write a "how-to guide" to life, because there are really NO firm rules when it comes to human socialization (that's what makes it so frustratingly difficult!) Therefore, we must try to account for diversity of experiences as best as we can.

Overall, please try to keep in mind that just because YOU have had a single unfortunate experience, this does not mean that all other autistic people will "definitely" or even "most likely" have this experience. In order for this wiki to best help autistic people, I think it is vital for us all to try our very best to respect each other's unique contributions.

All the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T03:20:04Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed that someone went in and made some changes. While I am glad that this person wanted to contribute to the wiki and share their perspective, I see that they also chose to delete some of mine. While I recognize that anyone currently has the power to do this by the nature of this collaborative effort, and I recognize that autistic brains may favor viewing things in absolutes/"rules," I do think that it will be important moving forward for the wiki to better account for diversity of thought.

Even though there are many ways that autistic people relate to each other which distinguish us from allistics (which is why this wiki is necessary in the first place!), autistic people may have very different experiences of certain scenarios due to various intertwined factors including diversity, culture, social groups/other communities one belongs to, geographical location, and even just random chance.

With that being said, I do not feel it is helpful at this time, in MOST circumstances, to delete someone's perspective just because it conflicts with one's own. Rather, I think we should make an effort to use language which implies that "your mileage may vary," as opposed to absolute statements such as "do *not* do X." When there are disagreements (which will be inevitable moving forward!), perhaps we should avoid simply deleting the perspectives of others (unless those perspectives are CLEARLY harmful and factually inaccurate - I am not sure if that applies to a suggestion about following up on job applications). However, anyone should feel free to contribute conflicting perspectives (as long as they are respectful about it and are not just attempting to invalidate others)!. It will be vitally important for us to demonstrate that ALL perspectives are valid.

This is just my suggestion for how I would advise we all move forward with the wiki at this early stage, and I think this speaks to a pretty crucial consideration regarding the feasibility of this project. It is inherently difficult to write a "how-to guide" to life, because there are really NO firm rules when it comes to human socialization (that's what makes it so frustratingly difficult!) Therefore, we must try to account for diversity of experiences as best as we can.

Overall, please try to keep in mind that just because YOU have had a single unfortunate experience, this does not mean that all other autistic people will "definitely" or even "most likely" have this experience. In order for this wiki to best help autistic people, I think it is vital for us all to try our very best to respect each other's unique contributions.

All the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T02:27:11Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed that someone went in and made some changes. While I am glad that this person wanted to contribute to the wiki and share their perspective, I see that they also chose to delete some of mine. While I recognize that anyone currently has the power to do this by the nature of this collaborative effort, and I recognize that autistic brains may favor viewing things in absolutes/"rules," I do think that it will be important moving forward for the wiki to better account for diversity of opinion.

Even though there are many ways that autistic people relate to each other which distinguish us from allistics (which is why this wiki is necessary in the first place!), autistic people may have very different experiences of certain scenarios due to various intertwined factors including diversity, culture, social groups/other communities one belongs to, geographical location, and even just random chance.

With that being said, I do not feel it is helpful at this time, in MOST circumstances, to delete someone's perspective just because it conflicts with one's own. Rather, I think we should make an effort to use language which implies that "your mileage may vary," as opposed to absolute statements such as "do *not* do X." When there are disagreements (which will be inevitable moving forward!), perhaps we should avoid simply deleting the perspectives of others (unless those perspectives are CLEARLY harmful and factually inaccurate - I am not sure if that applies to a suggestion about following up on job applications). However, anyone should feel free to contribute conflicting perspectives (as long as they are respectful about it and are not just attempting to invalidate others)!. It will be vitally important for us to demonstrate that ALL perspectives are valid.

This is just my suggestion for how I would advise we all move forward with the wiki at this early stage, and I think this speaks to a pretty crucial consideration regarding the feasibility of this project. It is inherently difficult to write a "how-to guide" to life, because there are really NO firm rules when it comes to human socialization (that's what makes it so frustratingly difficult!) Therefore, we must try to account for diversity of experiences as best as we can.

Overall, please try to keep in mind that just because YOU have had a single unfortunate experience, this does not mean that all other autistic people will "definitely" or even "most likely" have this experience. In order for this wiki to best help autistic people, I think it is vital for us all to try our very best to respect each other's unique contributions.

All the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T02:22:30Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed that someone went in and made some changes. While I am glad that this person wanted to contribute to the wiki and share their perspective, I see that they also chose to delete some of mine. While I recognize that anyone currently has the power to do this by the nature of this collaborative effort, and I recognize that autistic brains may favor viewing things in absolutes/"rules," I do think that it will be important moving forward for the wiki to better account for diversity of opinion.

Even though there are many ways that autistic people relate to each other which distinguish us from allistics (which is why we need this wiki!), autistic people may have very different experiences of certain scenarios due to various interconnected factors including diversity, culture, social groups/other communities one belongs to, geographical location, and even just random chance.

With that being said, I do not feel it is helpful at this time to delete someone's perspective just because it conflicts with yours, and I think we should make an effort to use language which implies that "your mileage may vary," as opposed to absolute statements such as "do *not* do X." When there are disagreements (which will be inevitable moving forward!), perhaps we should avoid simply deleting the perspectives of others (unless those perspectives are CLEARLY harmful and factually inaccurate - I am not sure if that applies to a suggestion about following up on job applications). However, anyone should feel free to contribute conflicting perspectives as long as they are respectful about it and do not attempt to completely invalidate others. We should demonstrate that ALL different perspectives are valid, as this speaks to the important value of inclusivity.

This is just my suggestion for how I would advise we all move forward with the wiki at this early stage, and I think this speaks to a pretty crucial consideration regarding the feasibility of this project. It is inherently difficult to write a "how-to guide" to life, because there are really NO firm rules when it comes to human socialization (that's what makes it so frustratingly difficult!) Therefore, we must try to account for diversity of experiences as best as we can.

Overall, please try to keep in mind that just because YOU have had a single unfortunate experience, this does not mean that all other autistic people will "definitely" or even "most likely" have this experience. In order for this wiki to best help autistic people, I think it is vital for us all to try our very best to respect each other's unique contributions.

All the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T01:36:03Z

Kateapnp: /* Getting interviews */

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed someone went in and made some changes. I do think that this Wiki is going to need to include multiple different perspectives which may vary from person to person, depending on what our personal experiences have been, where we are from, etc. And on this page especially, there are many other factors which play a role such as what field of employment you are in.
With that being said, I do not agree with deleting someone's tip and changing it to an absolute statement ("Do *not* follow up on an application"). I think when there are disagreements, perhaps it would be better moving forward to keep the original person's perspective, and add a short comment indicating that you have had a different experiences (but this should not invalidate either of our perspectives). I understand how this sort of thing can happen, especially because as autistic people, our brains tend towards viewing things in absolutes/"rules." This is just a suggestion for how I would advise we move forward with the wiki, because there will almost definitely be future incidents like this in which people have differing opinions, and I think that is a CRUCIAL consideration if this wiki is going to work. Thank you and all the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Following up on applications ==
Whether or not it is considered socially appropriate to follow up on job applications can vary depending on where you are from, what type of field you are looking for work in, and preferences of individual employers. Here is one anonymous contributor's perspective:
"Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest."

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Job interviews

2022-08-24T01:28:40Z

Kateapnp:

Note from @kateapnp (hi): I wrote this page originally, and I noticed someone went in and made some changes. I do think that this Wiki is going to need to include multiple different perspectives which may vary from person to person, depending on what our personal experiences have been, where we are from, etc. And on this page especially, there are many other factors which play a role such as what field of employment you are in.
With that being said, I do not agree with deleting someone's tip and changing it to an absolute statement ("Do *not* follow up on an application"). I think when there are disagreements, perhaps it would be better moving forward to keep the original person's perspective, and add a short comment indicating that you have had a different experiences (but this should not invalidate either of our perspectives). I understand how this sort of thing can happen, especially because as autistic people, our brains tend towards viewing things in absolutes/"rules." This is just a suggestion for how I would advise we move forward with the wiki, because there will almost definitely be future incidents like this in which people have differing opinions, and I think that is a CRUCIAL consideration if this wiki is going to work. Thank you and all the best, friends.

== Getting interviews ==

* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time. Do *not* follow up on an application: If the hiring officials want to talk to you, they'll contact you. Following up on an application may have been the way to job hunt back before the Internet as we know it, but nowadays it is generally being a pest.
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Preparing for an interview ==

* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)
* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General interview tips ==

* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.
* Many employers "ghost" interviewees...they only contact the one they decide to hire, and don't even call or email the other people they interviewed to tell them what happened. Once your interview is over and you've sent your "thank you" email / letter, you're expected to just forget about it and assume you won't be hired unless and until they contact you with an offer.

(Many people think it's rude, but if you confront a hiring official who took your time and energy to interview you and then never even sent you a rejection letter or email, s/he probably will be angry at you. Some things are rude but widely done...at least by people with power to people without it.)

[[Category:Business]]

Defence mechanism

2022-08-23T18:27:20Z

Kateapnp: /* Dealing with defense mechanisms */ just fixing some little formatting things

Both neurotypical and autistic people sometimes use '''defense mechanisms''', albeit often in different ways and in different circumstances. When people use defense mechanisms, they are typically not aware of it. Defense mechanisms often go hand-in-hand with logical fallacies, as both are ways that people defend their egos and support their opinions/arguments/beliefs.

Therapy (with an autistic-friendly therapist) can be extremely helpful for identifying your own use of defense mechanisms, and replacing your use of unhealthy defense mechanisms with healthy defense mechanisms and coping skills.

== Why people use defense mechanisms ==

People who hold themselves to very high standards may be more likely to use defense mechanisms. This is because they have a deep fear that if they have done something wrong, this would mean that they are a terrible person, or that their identity of having a certain character trait, such as being intelligent, would be invalidated. As a way of protecting ourselves from having to think bad things about ourselves, our brains use defense mechanisms, often without us being aware of it. Our perception (can add more science here) of situations is fluid, and our brain is very skilled at altering how we view situations to align with what it expects (confirmation bias).

== What if I use defense mechanisms? ==

It can be difficult to see and to admit to your own use of defense mechanisms, and this is where a skilled therapist or a kind friend can be very helpful. If you use defense mechanisms (most people do), it does not mean that you are lying or bad. In fact, people with trauma may be more likely to use defense mechanisms, as this can be the brain's way of protecting oneself from future trauma. I have identified my own use of defense mechanisms through neurodivergent-friendly therapy, and I found that being honest with myself and others about my use of defense mechanisms always works out better than trying to pretend I am perfect all of the time. Neurotypical people and autistic people alike can appreciate honesty and humility. Most people feel more comfortable around people who admit to making mistakes and being wrong about things.

It is absolutely impossible for *anyone* to never make a mistake or be wrong about anything. I have found that it is much easier to accept this fact about myself and others, as it allows me to forgive myself and others and give people the benefit of the doubt.

== Dealing with defense mechanisms ==

Autistic people tend to be very logical, so they may easily pick up on when others are using defense mechanisms and their arguments are flawed. This can be frustrating, because it may be difficult to comprehend how someone seems to convinced of something that seems to clearly not be true. It is important to keep in mind that when people use defense mechanisms, they often genuinely believe that what they are saying is the truth. Therefore, it is respectful to try to acknowledge their feelings and not invalidate their perspectives/experiences. However, this is not to say that people never lie or deliberately misrepresent facts. In general, it is easier to get along with people if you try to err on the side of giving people the benefit of the doubt (i.e. treating them as as honest or deserving of trust despite your doubts) when they say things that seem to be inaccurate. People often use defense mechanisms to make ''themselves'' feel better, rather than to try to trick you or lie to you. Sometimes people will use defense mechanisms as a way to argue against opposing opinions that make them feel threatened. It is very easy to feel frustrated or upset when you notice someone doing this, and that is totally normal and okay. It can be helpful to try to think about different reasons why someone may be doing this, and to remember that all people think about themselves and their own feelings more than they think about anyone else. Therefore, if you perceive something someone said as hurtful, and inform them of this, they may become defensive and deny that they "said anything wrong." This is because when people are told that they may have hurt your feelings, they may interpret this as you accusing them of being mean or bad. When this happens, both parties can take accountability, as what occurred was a miscommunication, since neither of you ''intended'' to hurt each other.

It is always best to try to take accountability and validate someone's feelings when they express that their feelings have been hurt by something that you said or did, even if you don't agree that it was hurtful, or you did not intend to hurt them. This sets a good example, so they are more likely to do the same for you in the future.

=Types of defense mechanisms=

Can add descriptions of healthy vs. unhealthy defense mechanisms

Defence mechanism

2022-08-23T18:26:29Z

Kateapnp: /* Dealing with defense mechanisms */

Both neurotypical and autistic people sometimes use '''defense mechanisms''', albeit often in different ways and in different circumstances. When people use defense mechanisms, they are typically not aware of it. Defense mechanisms often go hand-in-hand with logical fallacies, as both are ways that people defend their egos and support their opinions/arguments/beliefs.

Therapy (with an autistic-friendly therapist) can be extremely helpful for identifying your own use of defense mechanisms, and replacing your use of unhealthy defense mechanisms with healthy defense mechanisms and coping skills.

== Why people use defense mechanisms ==

People who hold themselves to very high standards may be more likely to use defense mechanisms. This is because they have a deep fear that if they have done something wrong, this would mean that they are a terrible person, or that their identity of having a certain character trait, such as being intelligent, would be invalidated. As a way of protecting ourselves from having to think bad things about ourselves, our brains use defense mechanisms, often without us being aware of it. Our perception (can add more science here) of situations is fluid, and our brain is very skilled at altering how we view situations to align with what it expects (confirmation bias).

== What if I use defense mechanisms? ==

It can be difficult to see and to admit to your own use of defense mechanisms, and this is where a skilled therapist or a kind friend can be very helpful. If you use defense mechanisms (most people do), it does not mean that you are lying or bad. In fact, people with trauma may be more likely to use defense mechanisms, as this can be the brain's way of protecting oneself from future trauma. I have identified my own use of defense mechanisms through neurodivergent-friendly therapy, and I found that being honest with myself and others about my use of defense mechanisms always works out better than trying to pretend I am perfect all of the time. Neurotypical people and autistic people alike can appreciate honesty and humility. Most people feel more comfortable around people who admit to making mistakes and being wrong about things.

It is absolutely impossible for *anyone* to never make a mistake or be wrong about anything. I have found that it is much easier to accept this fact about myself and others, as it allows me to forgive myself and others and give people the benefit of the doubt.

== Dealing with defense mechanisms ==

Autistic people tend to be very logical, so they may easily pick up on when others are using defense mechanisms and their arguments are flawed. This can be frustrating, because it may be difficult to comprehend how someone seems to convinced of something that seems to clearly not be true. It is important to keep in mind that when people use defense mechanisms, they often genuinely believe that what they are saying is the truth. Therefore, it is respectful to try to acknowledge their feelings and not invalidate their perspectives/experiences. However, this is not to say that people never lie or deliberately misrepresent facts. In general, it is easier to get along with people if you try to err on the side of giving people the benefit of the doubt (i.e. treating them as as honest or deserving of trust despite your doubts) when they say things that seem to be inaccurate. People often use defense mechanisms to make 'themselves' feel better, rather than to try to trick you or lie to you. Sometimes people will use defense mechanisms as a way to argue against opposing opinions that make them feel threatened. It is very easy to feel frustrated or upset when you notice someone doing this, and that is totally normal and okay. It can be helpful to try to think about different reasons why someone may be doing this, and to remember that all people think about themselves and their own feelings more than they think about anyone else. Therefore, if you perceive something someone said as hurtful, and inform them of this, they may become defensive and deny that they "said anything wrong." This is because when people are told that they may have hurt your feelings, they may interpret this as you accusing them of being mean or bad. When this happens, both parties can take accountability, as what occurred was a miscommunication, since neither of you 'intended' to hurt each other.

It is always best to try to take accountability and validate someone's feelings when they express that their feelings have been hurt by something that you said or did, even if you don't agree that it was hurtful, or you did not intend to hurt them. This sets a good example, so they are more likely to do the same for you in the future.

=Types of defense mechanisms=

Can add descriptions of healthy vs. unhealthy defense mechanisms

Defence mechanism

2022-08-23T18:25:10Z

Kateapnp:

Both neurotypical and autistic people sometimes use '''defense mechanisms''', albeit often in different ways and in different circumstances. When people use defense mechanisms, they are typically not aware of it. Defense mechanisms often go hand-in-hand with logical fallacies, as both are ways that people defend their egos and support their opinions/arguments/beliefs.

Therapy (with an autistic-friendly therapist) can be extremely helpful for identifying your own use of defense mechanisms, and replacing your use of unhealthy defense mechanisms with healthy defense mechanisms and coping skills.

== Why people use defense mechanisms ==

People who hold themselves to very high standards may be more likely to use defense mechanisms. This is because they have a deep fear that if they have done something wrong, this would mean that they are a terrible person, or that their identity of having a certain character trait, such as being intelligent, would be invalidated. As a way of protecting ourselves from having to think bad things about ourselves, our brains use defense mechanisms, often without us being aware of it. Our perception (can add more science here) of situations is fluid, and our brain is very skilled at altering how we view situations to align with what it expects (confirmation bias).

== What if I use defense mechanisms? ==

It can be difficult to see and to admit to your own use of defense mechanisms, and this is where a skilled therapist or a kind friend can be very helpful. If you use defense mechanisms (most people do), it does not mean that you are lying or bad. In fact, people with trauma may be more likely to use defense mechanisms, as this can be the brain's way of protecting oneself from future trauma. I have identified my own use of defense mechanisms through neurodivergent-friendly therapy, and I found that being honest with myself and others about my use of defense mechanisms always works out better than trying to pretend I am perfect all of the time. Neurotypical people and autistic people alike can appreciate honesty and humility. Most people feel more comfortable around people who admit to making mistakes and being wrong about things.

It is absolutely impossible for *anyone* to never make a mistake or be wrong about anything. I have found that it is much easier to accept this fact about myself and others, as it allows me to forgive myself and others and give people the benefit of the doubt.

== Dealing with defense mechanisms ==

Autistic people tend to be very logical, so they may easily pick up on when others are using defense mechanisms and their arguments are flawed. This can be frustrating, because it may be difficult to comprehend how someone seems to convinced of something that seems to clearly not be true. It is important to keep in mind that when people use defense mechanisms, they often genuinely believe that what they are saying is the truth. Therefore, it is respectful to try to acknowledge their feelings and not invalidate their perspectives/experiences. However, this is not to say that people never lie or deliberately misrepresent facts. In general, it is easier to get along with people if you try to err on the side of giving people the benefit of the doubt (i.e. treating them as as honest or deserving of trust despite your doubts) when they say things that seem to be inaccurate. People often use defense mechanisms to make THEMSELVES feel better, rather than to try to trick you or lie to you. Sometimes people will use defense mechanisms as a way to argue against opposing opinions that make them feel threatened. It is very easy to feel frustrated or upset when you notice someone doing this, and that is totally normal and okay. It can be helpful to try to think about different reasons why someone may be doing this, and to remember that all people think about themselves and their own feelings more than they think about anyone else. Therefore, if you perceive something someone said as hurtful, and inform them of this, they may become defensive and deny that they "said anything wrong." This is because when people are told that they may have hurt your feelings, they may interpret this as you accusing them of being mean or bad. When this happens, both parties can take accountability, as what occurred was a miscommunication, since neither of you *intended* to hurt each other.

It is always best to try to take accountability and validate someone's feelings when they express that they have hurt you, even if you don't agree that what you said was hurtful. This sets a good example, so they are more likely to do the same for you in the future.

=Types of defense mechanisms=

Can add descriptions of healthy vs. unhealthy defense mechanisms

Main Page

2022-08-23T18:24:35Z

Kateapnp: /* Allistic communication & miscommunication */

Welcome to the '''ActuallyAutistic Wiki'''! This is a community-driven guide to all aspects of autism, allism, and helping build bridges between neurotypes.

* '''Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki!'''
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier versions can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!
* Here are some of our [[Style guidelines|style guidelines]] if you're unsure about formatting etc. But don't worry or overthink too much about "getting things right", these are not "hard rules" – and everything can be edited, formatted & moved later without issue anyway! :)
* If you have some ideas on how to improve this project, feel free to use the ''Talk:Topic'' discussions [[Main Page#Discussion|at the end of this page!]] You can also create your own!
* '''Please remember that, except for the first letter, links are CASE SENSITIVE'''. When linking to a missing page, whichever case you use will be created when someone follows the link and makes that new page. Linking to existing articles is case sensitive for every letter ''except'' the first one. Lowercasing or capitalizing a letter other than the first one will break the link / not link to the page you want. Please read [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Links this guide on links] for more information.

== Actually Autistic terminology ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autism]]
* [[Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info dumping]]
* [[Justice sensitivity]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Parallel play]]
* [[Rejection sensitive dysphoria]]
* [[Ritual]]
* [[Routine]]
* [[Safe foods]]
* [[Savant]]
* [[Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoon theory]]
* [[Stimming]]
* [[The autism spectrum|The Autism spectrum]]

== Outmoded terminology ==

* [[Asperger syndrome]]
* [[Functioning labels|High- and low-functioning]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Gossip]]
* [[Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy]]
* [[Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Theory of mind]]

== Allistic communication & miscommunication ==

* [[Body language]]
* [[Common sense]]
* [[Common Sense]] (Different content, should be merged.)
* [[Defence mechanism|Defence mechanisms]] (Put a lot of other stuff in here about disagreeing with people in general. Not sure if some of it should go elsewhere.)
* [[Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expression|Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cue|Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]
* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Podcasts by Autistic creators]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[Augmentative and alternative communication|AAC]]
* [[Hidden disabilities sunflower]]
* [[Noise-cancelling headphones]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask and guess cultures]]
* [[High and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach and coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Overlapping neurotypes|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Problems with autism research ==

* [[Autism Speaks]]
* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Functioning labels]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]
* [[Stigma]]

== How to help ==

(I have no idea what the purpose of this section and the page below is supposed to be?)

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Applied_Behavior_Analysis|Applied behavior analysis]]
* [[Depression]]
* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Information processing differences ==

* [[Aphasia]]
* [[Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]
* [[Hyperlexia]]
* [[Prosopagnosia]]
* [[Synesthesia]]

== Office & work dynamics ==

* [[Corporate buzzwords]]
* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Senses ==

Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.

* [[Auditory perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Sensory sensitivity]]
* [[Olfactory perception|Smell]]
* [[Gustatory perception|Taste]]
* [[Tactile perception|Texture]]
* [[Vestibulary perception]]
* [[Visual perception|Vision]]

== Meta ==

* [[Community guidelines]]
* [[Style guidelines]]

== Discussion ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages]. Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Talk:Feature wishlist]]
* [[Talk:Meta]]
* [[Talk:Miscellaneous]]

== Misc ==

* [[special:AllPages|View all pages]]
* [[Special:Categories|View all categories]]

User:Kateapnp

2022-08-23T12:55:42Z

Kateapnp:

Y'all I'm so sorry if I do anything wrong here or if I'm not supposed to "create this page?" I honestly have no idea what I'm doing; I've never used a Wiki before (but I really like it so far! The formatting is so intuitive lol)
Anyway I wanted to like explain myself lol. Hi I'm on Twitter as @kateapnp
Sorry I keep getting so hyperfocused on writing stuff. I have insane time blindness related to ADHD... I think I have been working on this wiki for the last 5 hours lol. I am just really excited about it because I've literally thought for so long that something like this could be really helpful for people. I've already learned helpful things from reading the other pages people have written! I'm in my 20s, I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago and then discovered I was autistic. I have other mental health comorbidities which I believe mostly resulted from the trauma (bullying, etc.) I faced due to being undiagnosed. But I actually believe I have been really lucky in a lot of ways so far in life, and privileged, and I was able to recently get my masters degree and just became a psychiatric nurse practitioner. I have also worked as a psychiatric nurse and in mental healthcare settings for 5 years now. So I kind of have a dual perspective of sorts, as an autistic mental health provider with a lot of my own lived experience. Anyway, thanks for starting this project! I am excited about continuing to contribute.... if that's okay hehe. Here is a link to my little thread of tweets about the Wiki :) https://twitter.com/kateapnp/status/1561825341513031681?s=20&t=K3lQsk5XKTzL7wJuZGOtiQ

User:Kateapnp

2022-08-23T12:54:02Z

Kateapnp:

Y'all I'm so sorry if I do anything wrong here or if I'm not supposed to "create this page?" I honestly have no idea what I'm doing; I've never used a Wiki before (but I really like it so far! The formatting is so intuitive lol)
Anyway I wanted to like explain myself lol. Hi I'm on Twitter as @kateapnp
Sorry I keep getting so hyperfocused on writing stuff. I have insane time blindness related to ADHD... I think I have been working on this wiki for the last 5 hours lol. I am just really excited about it because I've literally thought for so long that something like this could be really helpful for people. I've already learned helpful things from reading the other pages people have written! I'm in my 20s, I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago and then discovered I was autistic. I have other mental health comorbidities which I believe resulted from the trauma (bullying, etc.) I faced due to being undiagnosed. But I actually believe I was really lucky in a lot of ways, and privileged, and I was able to recently get my masters degree and just became a psychiatric nurse practitioner. I have also worked as a psychiatric nurse and in mental healthcare settings for 5 years now. So I kind of have a dual perspective of sorts, as a mental health provider with lived experience. Anyway, thanks for starting this project! I am excited about continuing to contribute.... if that's okay hehe. Here is a link to my little thread of tweets about the Wiki :) https://twitter.com/kateapnp/status/1561825341513031681?s=20&t=K3lQsk5XKTzL7wJuZGOtiQ

User:Kateapnp

2022-08-23T12:52:58Z

Kateapnp: Created page with "Y'all I'm so sorry if I do anything wrong here or if I'm not supposed to "create this page?" I honestly have no idea what I'm doing; I've never used a Wiki before (but I really like it so far. The formatting is so intuitive lol) Anyway I'm on Twitter as @kateapnp Sorry I keep getting so hyperfocused on writing stuff. I have insane time blindness related to ADHD... I think I have been working on this wiki for the last 5 hours lol. I am just really excited about it because..."

Y'all I'm so sorry if I do anything wrong here or if I'm not supposed to "create this page?" I honestly have no idea what I'm doing; I've never used a Wiki before (but I really like it so far. The formatting is so intuitive lol)
Anyway I'm on Twitter as @kateapnp
Sorry I keep getting so hyperfocused on writing stuff. I have insane time blindness related to ADHD... I think I have been working on this wiki for the last 5 hours lol. I am just really excited about it because I've literally thought for so long that something like this could be really helpful for people. I've already learned helpful things from reading the other pages people have written! I'm in my 20s, I was diagnosed with ADHD 3 years ago and then discovered I was autistic. I have other mental health comorbidities which I believe resulted from the trauma (bullying, etc.) I faced due to being undiagnosed. But I actually believe I was really lucky in a lot of ways, and privileged, and I was able to recently get my masters degree and just became a psychiatric nurse practitioner. I have also worked as a psychiatric nurse and in mental healthcare settings for 5 years now. So I kind of have a dual perspective of sorts, as a mental health provider with lived experience. Anyway, thanks for starting this project! I am excited about continuing to contribute.... if that's okay hehe. Here is a link to my little thread of tweets about the Wiki :) https://twitter.com/kateapnp/status/1561825341513031681?s=20&t=K3lQsk5XKTzL7wJuZGOtiQ

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:43:59Z

Kateapnp: /* Pros and cons of formal diagnosis */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not been formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==
Some people choose to seek formal diagnosis if they need documentation of their autism by a professional in order to qualify for certain accommodations such as public disability benefits. In addition, some people feel that it can be validating to receive a formal diagnosis. ''Please keep in mind that it is both valid to want a formal diagnosis and valid to not seek a formal diagnosis.'' There are many barriers to receiving a formal diagnosis including cost, wait times, and lack of access depending on your location, as well as the possibility of inaccurate assessment due to lack of education among professionals.

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not''' '''''always''''' '''accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner known as a clinical interview (this may or may not include questionnaires), and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:37:27Z

Kateapnp: /* Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not been formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not''' '''''always''''' '''accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner known as a clinical interview (this may or may not include questionnaires), and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:37:06Z

Kateapnp: /* Diagnosis in the US: considerations */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not be formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not''' '''''always''''' '''accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner known as a clinical interview (this may or may not include questionnaires), and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:36:23Z

Kateapnp: /* Diagnosis in the US: considerations */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not be formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not''' '''''always''''' '''accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner (they may or may not administer questionnaires) known as a clinical interview, and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:36:02Z

Kateapnp: /* Diagnosis in the US: considerations */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not be formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not 'always' accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner (they may or may not administer questionnaires) known as a clinical interview, and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Formal diagnosis

2022-08-23T12:35:50Z

Kateapnp: /* Diagnosis in the US: considerations */

== Formal diagnosis vs. self-diagnosis ==

It is a personal choice whether to seek '''formal diagnosis''' of your autism, and whichever decision you choose to make is valid. '''It is believed by the vast majority of the autism community that self-diagnosis is 100% valid. You may identify as autistic even if you have not be formally diagnosed.'''

== Pros and cons of formal diagnosis ==

== Diagnosis in the US: considerations ==

Various mental health professionals are qualified to make a diagnosis of autism, including psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, psychologists, and even family doctors, though many professionals who do not feel they have adequate expertise in autism diagnosis will refer you to others. The biggest consideration in the US is cost, as this can vary greatly depending on whether you are insured, what type of insurance you have, and where you go to seek diagnosis. The most common practice that professionals will refer one to (especially children) is a practice of (usually) psychologists who specialize in "psychological testing." This is usually a long process (may be 2 or more hours and can span over the course of multiple appointments) in which multiple formal tests will be administered (usually questionnaires, they may do a standard assessment for all patients that tests for other disorders besides just autism, and may include an IQ test or computerized testing for ADHD - this is considered neuropsychological testing). You will usually receive a long report which details the tests that were performed, the results, and the psychologist's recommendations for treatment, which you should be given access to as well as your referring provider. '''These tests can certainly be helpful, but they are not always accurate.''' Alternatively, you may be evaluated by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychiatric nurse practitioner in a less formal manner (they may or may not administer questionnaires) known as a clinical interview, and this is also a valid route to obtaining a diagnosis. You usually will not receive a written report in this case, but if you are informed that you are diagnosed with autism, you can request documentation of this from your provider.

== Steps to seek diagnosis in the US ==

* Look up specialty autism clinics in your area. Even if one is out of your area, they may provide telehealth services, but insurance coverage varies by state.
* Find a clinician in a private practice who is knowledgable about autism. This can be through word of mouth, recommendations from others in the community or local Facebook group, or resources like Psychology Today's "Find a Therapist" tool [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists here]. Though not all therapists can provide formal diagnoses, this database includes providers who may perform diagnostic services as well.
* This database allows you to filter mental health professionals by location, profession, and area of expertise. If you are specifically seeking a formal diagnosis, look at the professional's credentials. Those with MD, NP or PMHNP, PsyD, or PhD are usually able to provide diagnoses, but read their bios to get an idea of what services they provide. Their pages include contact information, so you can make a phone call or send an email to inquire about services as well.

Gossip

2022-08-23T12:23:24Z

Kateapnp: /* How to escape gossip */

'''Gossip''' is defined as two people talking about another person who is not present in the conversation. While the term "gossip" usually has a negative connotation, it is actually not all bad. Apparently, up to 75% of neurotypical communication consists of gossip, but only 5% of this is "bad" gossip (Stuff You Should Know: How Gossip Works podcast - citation needed).

== Why people gossip ==

When people try to gossip to you, it is usually a good thing for you, because it ''often'' means that they trust you, feel that you are important to share social information with, are including you in the workplace's social group, or want to befriend you (this may not always be the case). It is normal, and extremely common, for all neurotypical people to gossip, and everyone will be a subject of gossip at some point, especially if you are a member of a social group such as a workplace or a class. This is generally because it is a way for them to connect with each other and establish social hierarchies, and because they are ''nosy''/curious about other people's business (autistic people may also be nosy about other people's business, and that is okay!) People are also always comparing themselves to other people, and that is another function of gossip that most often does not occur out loud.

== How to respond to & cope with gossip ==

''Most'' people will be satisfied if you just ''listen'' to them, and convey to them that you are doing so by using nonverbal cues (nodding, making affirmative remarks like "mhm," "oh wow," "that's crazy," etc.). All people want to have their feelings and opinions validated, and neurotypical people especially may take it personally if they feel that you are not listening to them or agreeing with them. Therefore, even if you do not agree with what a gossiping person is saying, it is up to you whether you want to share your opinion, or keep it to yourself. You may feel guilty for not standing up for someone else if you feel that they are being spoken badly of, but in most cases, that person will never know that the gossip about them is occurring. Even though it might feel wrong, just listening to people gossip and pretending like you agree with them can be a way of protecting yourself in a social group.

== How to escape gossip ==

Neurotypical people may be offended if you disagree with or choose not to listen to their gossip. However, if gossip is triggering for you, or you do not feel comfortable with it, that is okay too. There are "polite" ways to "escape" gossip, though if you do this too many times, people may become suspicious of you.
* Make an excuse that is considered socially appropriate - "Gotta respond to this call" (lol)
* Try to tune it out? Think about something else while trying to nod occasionally? (This is an art I have not mastered!)
* Try to, very gently, express your opposing viewpoint (this is a very delicate form of art)
** Use the sandwich method (validate feelings first, then state your critique, then end with validating feelings again)

[[Category:Allistic communication]]
[[Category:Sociology]]
[[Category:Tips]]

Getting coffee

2022-08-23T12:01:05Z

Kateapnp: /* Alternate perspective */

"We should get coffee sometime" or similar phrases (we should do ____ sometime) are often used by neurotypicals to politely convey interest in socializing with other people. However, these are mostly used to be polite and are not actual plan requests, which creates a conflict between the neurotypical person relaying this message and the autistic person receiving it. Autistic people's tendency to interpret things literally means that they will expect the plan to be followed up, while neurotypical people rarely have the intention to lead this plan to fruition. That creates a sense of rejection in the autistic person due to their different expectations.
= Alternate perspective =
I have found that people say this when they would actually like to maybe hang out with you, or just get to know you better! "Getting coffee" is almost like a "codeword" of sorts for hanging out in general. I would generally take this as a compliment, as I have found that people are USUALLY genuinely trying to convey interest in you when they say this. Unfortunately, "We SHOULD get coffee sometime" is not an actual, solid plan. It is a suggestion. Therefore, the next step in this situation is for you or the other party to take the initiative to formulate an actual, solid plan. This does not always happen, but that does not mean that the person who suggested this never actually WANTED to hang out with you! Sometimes even autistic people may say "we should get coffee sometime" as a less anxiety-inducing way to try to suggest that they WANT to make plans, but by saying this, that is not a guarantee that they WILL make an official plan. Once someone does take this first step (which can require bravery!), either party may or may not take the next step, which would be making a solid plan. (Whoever wrote the above: please don't be offended that I had this alternate perspective! I think it can be important to demonstrate on this wiki that different people can have different perspectives depending on their unique knowledge and experiences. I respect the other perspective shown above!)

[[Category:Allistic communication]]

Getting coffee

2022-08-23T11:59:36Z

Kateapnp:

"We should get coffee sometime" or similar phrases (we should do ____ sometime) are often used by neurotypicals to politely convey interest in socializing with other people. However, these are mostly used to be polite and are not actual plan requests, which creates a conflict between the neurotypical person relaying this message and the autistic person receiving it. Autistic people's tendency to interpret things literally means that they will expect the plan to be followed up, while neurotypical people rarely have the intention to lead this plan to fruition. That creates a sense of rejection in the autistic person due to their different expectations.
= Alternate perspective =
I have found that people say this when they would actually like to maybe hang out with you, or just get to know you better! "Getting coffee" is almost like a "codeword" of sorts for hanging out in general. I would generally take this as a compliment, as I have found that people are USUALLY genuinely trying to convey interest in you when they say this. Unfortunately, "We SHOULD get coffee sometime" is not an actual, solid plan. It is a suggestion. Therefore, the next step in this situation is for you or the other party to take the initiative to formulate an actual, solid plan. This does not always happen, but that does not mean that the person who suggested this never actually WANTED to hang out with you! Sometimes even autistic people may say "we should get coffee sometime" as a less anxiety-inducing way to try to suggest that they WANT to make plans, but by saying this, that is not a guarantee that they WILL make an official plan. Once someone does take this first step (which can require bravery!), either party may or may not take the next step, which would be making a solid plan. (Whoever wrote this: please don't be offended that I had this alternate perspective. I think it can be important to demonstrate on this wiki that different people can have different perspectives depending on their unique knowledge and experiences. I respect the other person's perspective!)

[[Category:Allistic communication]]

Getting coffee

2022-08-23T11:56:20Z

Kateapnp:

Getting coffee

2022-08-23T11:56:04Z

Kateapnp:

"We should get coffee sometime" or similar phrases (we should do ____ sometime) are often used by neurotypicals to politely convey interest in socializing with other people. However, these are mostly used to be polite and are not actual plan requests, which creates a conflict between the neurotypical person relaying this message and the autistic person receiving it. Autistic people's tendency to interpret things literally means that they will expect the plan to be followed up, while neurotypical people rarely have the intention to lead this plan to fruition. That creates a sense of rejection in the autistic person due to their different expectations.
^ Alternate perspective: I have found that people say this when they would actually like to maybe hang out with you, or just get to know you better! "Getting coffee" is almost like a "codeword" of sorts for hanging out in general. I would generally take this as a compliment, as I have found that people are USUALLY genuinely trying to convey interest in you when they say this. Unfortunately, "We SHOULD get coffee sometime" is not an actual, solid plan. It is a suggestion. Therefore, the next step in this situation is for you or the other party to take the initiative to formulate an actual, solid plan. This does not always happen, but that does not mean that the person who suggested this never actually WANTED to hang out with you! Sometimes even autistic people may say "we should get coffee sometime" as a less anxiety-inducing way to try to suggest that they WANT to make plans, but by saying this, that is not a guarantee that they WILL make an official plan. Once someone does take this first step (which can require bravery!), either party may or may not take the next step, which would be making a solid plan.

[[Category:Allistic communication]]

Synesthesia

2022-08-23T11:05:15Z

Kateapnp: Created page with "There are some great resources on synesthesia. I am a synesthete and can eventually add a summary here. https://synesthesia.com/blog/mindful-synesthetic-awareness/"

There are some great resources on synesthesia. I am a synesthete and can eventually add a summary here. https://synesthesia.com/blog/mindful-synesthetic-awareness/

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:59:16Z

Kateapnp: /* Addressing Misconceptions About Autism */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the '''questioning''' process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.

== Uncertainty ==

* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism (See Misconceptions below) for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.
== Addressing Misconceptions About Autism ==
There are many common misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes about autism out there, which may make you doubt yourself during the questioning process. Below are some of these and why they are incorrect.
* Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* Just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of traits.
* "But everyone does that!" Many autistic traits are ASSOCIATED with autism, but that does not mean that they are LIMITED to autistic people only. Autistic traits are experienced by autistic people at a much greater frequency and can be more severe/debilitating in autistic people as compared to neurotypical people who have similar traits. For example, sensory issues are associated with autism, and this can manifest in many ways including being a "picky eater" (autistic people may have difficulty tolerating certain tastes and textures, depending on what they may be sensitive to). Some neurotypical people can also be considered "picky eaters," but that does not negate the validity of taste/texture sensory avoidance as an autistic trait.
** Some autistic traits, like stimming, overlap with the symptoms of other mental health disorders, like ADHD.
** Some common autistic traits, which are not technically part of the neurodevelopment manifestations/diagnostic criteria of autism, are extremely common in autistic people because they result from the trauma of living in a world designed for neurotypical people (which often does not accommodate us and misinterprets us). These include things like anxiety, which can be experienced by neurotypical people as well.

[[Category:Am I autistic?]]

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:59:08Z

Kateapnp: /* Addressing Misconceptions About Autism */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the '''questioning''' process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.

== Uncertainty ==

* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism (See Misconceptions below) for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.
== Addressing Misconceptions About Autism ==
There are many common misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes about autism out there, which may make you doubt yourself during the questioning process. Below are some of these and why they are incorrect.
* Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* Just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of traits.
* "But everyone does that!" Many autistic traits are ASSOCIATED with autism, but that does not mean that they are LIMITED to autistic people only. Autistic traits are experienced by autistic people at a much greater frequency and can be more severe/debilitating in autistic people as compared to neurotypical people who have similar traits. For example, sensory issues are associated with autism, and this can manifest in many ways including being a "picky eater" (autistic people may have difficulty tolerating certain tastes and textures, depending on what they may be sensitive to). Neurotypical people can also be considered "picky eaters," but that does not negate the validity of taste/texture sensory avoidance as an autistic trait.
** Some autistic traits, like stimming, overlap with the symptoms of other mental health disorders, like ADHD.
** Some common autistic traits, which are not technically part of the neurodevelopment manifestations/diagnostic criteria of autism, are extremely common in autistic people because they result from the trauma of living in a world designed for neurotypical people (which often does not accommodate us and misinterprets us). These include things like anxiety, which can be experienced by neurotypical people as well.

[[Category:Am I autistic?]]

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:58:32Z

Kateapnp: /* Addressing Misconceptions About Autism */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the '''questioning''' process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.

== Uncertainty ==

* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism (See Misconceptions below) for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.
== Addressing Misconceptions About Autism ==
There are many common misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes about autism out there, which may make you doubt yourself during the questioning process. Below are some of these and why they are incorrect.
* Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* Just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of traits.
* "But everyone does that!" Many autistic traits are ASSOCIATED with autism, but that does not mean that they are LIMITED to autistic people only. Autistic traits are experienced by autistic people at a much greater frequency and can be more severe/debilitating in autistic people as compared to neurotypical people who have similar traits. For example, sensory issues are associated with autism, and this can manifest in many ways including being a "picky eater" (autistic people may have difficulty tolerating certain tastes and textures, depending on what they are sensitive to). Neurotypical people can also be considered "picky eaters," but that does not negate the validity of taste/texture sensory avoidance as an autistic trait.
** Some autistic traits, like stimming, overlap with the symptoms of other mental health disorders, like ADHD.
** Some common autistic traits, which are not technically part of the neurodevelopment manifestations/diagnostic criteria of autism, are extremely common in autistic people because they result from the trauma of living in a world designed for neurotypical people (which often does not accommodate us and misinterprets us). These include things like anxiety, which can be experienced by neurotypical people as well.

[[Category:Am I autistic?]]

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:54:18Z

Kateapnp: /* Addressing Misconceptions About Autism */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the '''questioning''' process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.

== Uncertainty ==

* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism (See Misconceptions below) for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.
== Addressing Misconceptions About Autism ==
There are many common misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes about autism out there, which may make you doubt yourself during the questioning process. Below are some of these and why they are incorrect.
* Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* Just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of traits.
* "But everyone does that!" Many autistic traits are ASSOCIATED with autism, but that does not mean that they are LIMITED to autistic people only.
** Some autistic traits, like stimming, overlap with the symptoms of other mental health disorders, like ADHD.
** Some common autistic traits, which are not technically part of the neurodevelopment manifestations/diagnostic criteria of autism, are extremely common in autistic people because they result from the trauma of living in a world designed for neurotypical people (which often does not accommodate us and misinterprets us). These include things like anxiety, which can be experienced by neurotypical people as well.

[[Category:Am I autistic?]]

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:51:48Z

Kateapnp: /* Addressing Misconceptions About Autism */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the '''questioning''' process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.

== Uncertainty ==

* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism (See Misconceptions below) for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.
== Addressing Misconceptions About Autism ==
There are many common misconceptions and inaccurate stereotypes about autism out there, which may make you doubt yourself during the questioning process. Below are some of these and why they are incorrect.
* Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* Just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of traits.
* "But everyone does that!" Many autistic traits are ASSOCIATED with autism, but that does not mean that they are LIMITED to autistic people only. Some autistic traits overlap with the symptoms of other mental health disorders, like ADHD. Some common autistic traits, which are not technically part of the neurodevelopment manifestations of autism, are extremely common in autistic people because they result from the trauma of living in a world which often does not accommodate us and misinterprets us.

[[Category:Am I autistic?]]

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:48:45Z

Kateapnp:

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:28:49Z

Kateapnp:

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the questioning process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.
== Uncertainty ==
* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more. Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say. Also, just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of common traits.
== Stages of Realization ==
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:28:12Z

Kateapnp: /* Uncertainty */

If you are here reading this Wiki, you may have already started the questioning process yourself! Many late-diagnosed autistic people can recall a moment of "realization" when they first learned that they might be autistic. This could be from learning about autism online, being informed by a therapist or other professional that they exhibit autistic traits, or speaking with another autistic person and learning from their knowledge and experience of being autistic.
== Uncertainty ==
* It is extremely common and normal to doubt during the questioning process whether you might "really" be autistic. You likely internalized the inaccurate stereotypes that society holds about autism (that is okay! It is not your fault that you did not know better.) Therefore, you might have had a certain impression of autism for years that may not fit with your experience of autism. Many people are only able to realize that they are autistic after learning that autism truly is a SPECTRUM, and that there are many factors which influence our presentations, including masking, being AFAB, trauma, and much more. Some people think that it is possible to "look" autistic, but this is absolutely not the case. All autistic people are different: we all have unique interests, hobbies, careers, preferences, comorbidities, fashion tastes, and more. While some autistic people may stim visibly at times, autism does NOT have any certain appearance.
* You may find yourself worrying that you could be "faking." This is a form of self-gaslighting that can occur after having the experience of someone "not believing you" about your autism (which is unfortunately common), or from seeing inaccurate information about autism. Your own perception and experience of your life is valid and real, no matter what other people say. Also, just because you may not have some autistic traits does not necessarily mean that you are not autistic. That is why it is a SPECTRUM. Each individual autistic person has a unique combination of autistic traits - some traits they may not even have at all, and others they may have very strongly. It is a common misbelief that autism exists on a scale of mild to severe, whereas the autism spectrum is a multidimensional gradient of common traits.
* The questioning step in the process goes along with research. If the more you research and learn about autism and the experiences of other autistic people, the more you relate and feel seen, then you are likely autistic. Late-diagnosed autistic people begin the process of rewriting the narrative of their life from the viewpoint that they are autistic rather than neurotypical like they used to believe. This can be immensely relieving, because most undiagnosed autistic people go through their lives believing that they are inadequate or deficient in some way, when this was never the case. The famous Albert Einstein (a suspected autistic!) quote, "If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" applies here. Autistic people often have low self-esteem, because they may have internalized various negative beliefs about themselves due to difficulties that they have faced throughout their lives as a result of not receiving accommodations for their autism. This process often results in a wide range of emotions including joy, rage, sadness, grief, and more, but the end goal is acceptance.

Questioning

2022-08-23T10:13:30Z

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Job interviews

2022-08-23T09:45:39Z

Kateapnp: /* General Interview Tips */

== Tips for Getting Interviews ==
* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time. If you do not hear anything back for 1-2 weeks, it is reasonable to make a phone call or send a follow-up email to "inquire about your application status."
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Tips for Preparing for an Interview ==
* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)

* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General Interview Tips ==
* There are many strange "hacks" to temporarily trick your brain into thinking you are more confident and sure of yourself than you actually are! Repeat mantras to yourself before the interview, like "I can do this" or "I am a good candidate" or "I deserve this job." See Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.

== General Tips ==

Job interviews

2022-08-23T09:43:01Z

Kateapnp: /* General Interview Tips */

== Tips for Getting Interviews ==
* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time. If you do not hear anything back for 1-2 weeks, it is reasonable to make a phone call or send a follow-up email to "inquire about your application status."
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Tips for Preparing for an Interview ==
* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)

* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General Interview Tips ==
* Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* GENERALLY, save YOUR questions for the end. They will USUALLY ask, "Do you have any questions for us?" after they finish asking you their questions. That is your cue.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.

== General Tips ==

Job interviews

2022-08-23T09:42:16Z

Kateapnp: /* Tips for Preparing for an Interview */

== Tips for Getting Interviews ==
* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time. If you do not hear anything back for 1-2 weeks, it is reasonable to make a phone call or send a follow-up email to "inquire about your application status."
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Tips for Preparing for an Interview ==
* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)

* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. It is very important and expected that you will ask questions, since this demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General Interview Tips ==
* Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.

== General Tips ==

Job interviews

2022-08-23T09:41:03Z

Kateapnp: /* Preparing for an Interview */

== Tips for Getting Interviews ==
* If you apply online through a website, depending on the employer, they may not check the applications they receive for long periods of time. If you do not hear anything back for 1-2 weeks, it is reasonable to make a phone call or send a follow-up email to "inquire about your application status."
* Indeed.com is a great resource, especially because it lets you know how recently the job listing was posted, and can give you updates on whether your application was read.

== Tips for Preparing for an Interview ==
* If you are nervous about answering questions, google "interview questions for [type of job]" or just "general interview questions." Practice what you will say if you are asked these questions. Write your answers down and review this right before the interview. Rehearse it with yourself, or with a friend. IF IT IS A ZOOM INTERVIEW, YOU CAN HAVE A CHEAT SHEET FOR WHAT TO SAY OPEN ON YOUR COMPUTER FOR YOUR OWN REFERENCE. Many websites give sample responses for good things to say! Don't lie, but speak as positively of yourself as possible. Buzzwords are great. "I'm really passionate about X." "I really admire your organization/mission."
* Formulate what you will say to "Tell me about yourself." It is very likely that you will be asked at the start of the interview to describe yourself. Prepare a few sentences about why you want the job and why you think you would be a good fit (your education, qualifications, past experience, etc.)

* Research the organization so you know what to say to the question, "Why do you want to work here?"
* Think of questions to ask. At least around 2-3 questions is a good, general rule of thumb. You can even write them down and keep them on a sticky note or small piece of paper with your resume. This demonstrates to people that you are interested in them and in the job.

== General Interview Tips ==
* Ted Talk on "Power Posing" to briefly increase your perception of your own confidence.
* Smile. Use nonverbal cues to convey that you are listening closely and interested/invested in what the interviewers are saying.
* If you can't think of your answer to a question right away, it's better to admit it and even laugh than to try to hide it or say something random. "That's a great question! Hmm..." "Wow, that's a tough one. I have to think..." Saying things like this can buy you more time while also subtly complimenting the interviewer. Being honest in this way can also make you look good to them. Unfortunately, this is a delicate balance, as it can be easy to accidentally be "TOO" honest. Try not to say anything which may be interpreted as self-deprecating, like "Sorry."
* Always try to remember to ask for the interviewers contact information/card if you do not already have it. A followup thank-you email is usually expected.

== General Tips ==

Job interviews

2022-08-23T09:22:24Z

Kateapnp: Created page with "== Preparing for an Interview == * Think of questions to ask. == General Tips =="

== Preparing for an Interview ==
* Think of questions to ask.

== General Tips ==

Main Page

2022-08-23T09:21:39Z

Kateapnp: /* Navigating office & work dynamics */

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier versions can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!
* '''Please remember that links are CASE SENSITIVE'''. Lowercasing or capitalizing a letter will break the link/not link to the page you want. Please read [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Links this guide on links] for more information.

== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic_Burnout|Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive_Dysfunction|Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info_Dumping|Info-dumping]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Rejection_Sensitive_Dysphoria|Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self-diagnosis|Self diagnosis]] and [[Formal_diagnosis|medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory_Overload|Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoons]]
* [[Stimming]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Group_Dynamics|Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer_Group|Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia|Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety|Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy|Empathy]]
* [[Imposter_Syndrome|Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Synesthesia|Synesthesia]]
* [[Theory_of_Mind|Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and non-autistic people ==

* [[Body_language|Body language]]
* [[Common_Sense|Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double_Empathy_Problem|Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye_contact|Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Multiple_Diagnoses|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How Are You?"|Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Navigating office & work dynamics ==

* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office gossip]] - added general info about gossip
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent Relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[AAC]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask culture vs guess culture]]
* [[High context and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach_and_coconut_cultures|Peach and Coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Learning difficulties ==

* [[Auditory_processing_disorder|Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Senses ==
Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.
* [[Auditory_Perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Olfaction|Smell]]
* [[Taste]]
* [[Vision]]

== Meta ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages].
Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Talk:Meta]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

Main Page

2022-08-23T09:21:11Z

Kateapnp:

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
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== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic_Burnout|Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive_Dysfunction|Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info_Dumping|Info-dumping]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Rejection_Sensitive_Dysphoria|Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self-diagnosis|Self diagnosis]] and [[Formal_diagnosis|medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory_Overload|Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoons]]
* [[Stimming]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Group_Dynamics|Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer_Group|Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia|Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety|Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy|Empathy]]
* [[Imposter_Syndrome|Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Synesthesia|Synesthesia]]
* [[Theory_of_Mind|Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and non-autistic people ==

* [[Body_language|Body language]]
* [[Common_Sense|Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double_Empathy_Problem|Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye_contact|Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Multiple_Diagnoses|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How Are You?"|Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Navigating office & work dynamics ==

* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office gossip]] - ADDED GENERAL INFO ABOUT GOSSIP
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent Relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[AAC]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask culture vs guess culture]]
* [[High context and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach_and_coconut_cultures|Peach and Coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Learning difficulties ==

* [[Auditory_processing_disorder|Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Senses ==
Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.
* [[Auditory_Perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Olfaction|Smell]]
* [[Taste]]
* [[Vision]]

== Meta ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages].
Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Talk:Meta]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

Main Page

2022-08-23T09:20:28Z

Kateapnp: /* Navigating office & work dynamics */

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier versions can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!
* '''Please remember that links are CASE SENSITIVE'''. Lowercasing or capitalizing a letter will break the link/not link to the page you want. Please read [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Links this guide on links] for more information.

== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic_Burnout|Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive_Dysfunction|Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info_Dumping|Info-dumping]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Rejection_Sensitive_Dysphoria|Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self-diagnosis|Self diagnosis]] and [[Formal_diagnosis|medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory_Overload|Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoons]]
* [[Stimming]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Group_Dynamics|Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer_Group|Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia|Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety|Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy|Empathy]]
* [[Imposter_Syndrome|Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Synesthesia|Synesthesia]]
* [[Theory_of_Mind|Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and non-autistic people ==

* [[Body_language|Body language]]
* [[Common_Sense|Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double_Empathy_Problem|Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye_contact|Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Multiple_Diagnoses|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How Are You?"|Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Navigating office & work dynamics ==

* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office gossip]]
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent Relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[AAC]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask culture vs guess culture]]
* [[High context and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach_and_coconut_cultures|Peach and Coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Learning difficulties ==

* [[Auditory_processing_disorder|Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Senses ==
Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.
* [[Auditory_Perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Olfaction|Smell]]
* [[Taste]]
* [[Vision]]

== Meta ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages].
Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Talk:Meta]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

Main Page

2022-08-23T09:20:05Z

Kateapnp:

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier versions can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!
* '''Please remember that links are CASE SENSITIVE'''. Lowercasing or capitalizing a letter will break the link/not link to the page you want. Please read [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Links this guide on links] for more information.

== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic_Burnout|Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive_Dysfunction|Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info_Dumping|Info-dumping]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Rejection_Sensitive_Dysphoria|Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self-diagnosis|Self diagnosis]] and [[Formal_diagnosis|medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory_Overload|Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]
* [[Spoons]]
* [[Stimming]]

== Sociology ==

* [[Group_Dynamics|Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer_Group|Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology ==

* [[Alexithymia|Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety|Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy|Empathy]]
* [[Imposter_Syndrome|Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Synesthesia|Synesthesia]]
* [[Theory_of_Mind|Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and non-autistic people ==

* [[Body_language|Body language]]
* [[Common_Sense|Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double_Empathy_Problem|Double empathy problem]]
* [[Eye_contact|Eye contact]]
* [[Facial expressions]]
* [[Getting coffee]]
* [[Literal interpretation]]
* [[Multi-channel communication]]
* [[Multiple_Diagnoses|Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How Are You?"|Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of voice]]

== Navigating office & work dynamics ==

* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[GOSSIP]]
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Dating & relationships ==

* [[Autistic love languages]]
* [[Dating apps / online dating]]
* [[Neurodivergent Relationships]]

== Autistic culture ==

* [[Books by Autistic authors]]
* [[Autistic celebrities]]
* [[Autistic representation in fiction]]

== Accommodations ==

* [[AAC]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask culture vs guess culture]]
* [[High context and low context cultures]]
* [[Peach_and_coconut_cultures|Peach and Coconut cultures]]

== Diagnostic journey ==

* [[Formal diagnosis]]
* [[Questioning]]
* [[Research]]
* [[Screening tools]]
* [[Self-diagnosis]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Autism stereotypes]]
* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==

* [[Capacity]]

== Mental health ==

* [[Difficulties with mental health services]]

== Learning difficulties ==

* [[Auditory_processing_disorder|Auditory processing disorder]]
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Senses ==
Many autistics have differences in their senses, such as maybe hypersensitive to sound but hyposensitive to smell. These articles should try to document examples of both types as well as potential ways to compensate.
* [[Auditory_Perception|Hearing]]
* [[Interoception]]
* [[Proprioception]]
* [[Olfaction|Smell]]
* [[Taste]]
* [[Vision]]

== Meta ==

We can talk about the wiki itself in talk-pages[https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Talk_pages].
Feel free to create your own for topics.

* [[Talk:Meta]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].