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2022-08-22T23:43:01Z

Girlsontour: /* Specific Learning Difficulties, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia */

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
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== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info-dumping]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Stimming]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self diagnosis and medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]

== Sociology 101 ==

* [[Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology 101 ==

* [[Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy]]
* [[Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and neurotypical people ==

* [[Body_language|Body Language]]
* [[Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double Empathy Problem]]
* [[Eye Contact]]
* [[Facial Expressions]]
* [[Getting Coffee]]
* [[Literal Interpretation]]
* [[Multi-Channel Communication]]
* [[Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of Voice]]

== Navigating Office & Work Dynamics ==

* [[HR interviews]]
* [[Job interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office gossip]]
* [[Team building / work socials]]
* [[Water cooler]]

== Dating & Relationships ==

* [[Autistic Love Languages]]
* [[Dating Apps / Online Dating]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask Culture vs Guess Culture]]
* [[High Context and Low Context Cultures]]
* [[Peach and Coconut Cultures]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Ethics of autism research]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==
* [[Capacity]]

== Mental Health ==

== When I also have Specific Learning Difficulties, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia ==
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

Main Page

2022-08-22T23:42:22Z

Girlsontour:

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!

== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info-dumping]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Stimming]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self diagnosis and medical diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]

== Sociology 101 ==

* [[Group dynamics]]
* [[Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology 101 ==

* [[Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy]]
* [[Imposter syndrome]]
* [[Theory of mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and neurotypical people ==

* [[Body_language|Body Language]]
* [[Common sense]]
* [[Defence mechanisms]]
* [[Double Empathy Problem]]
* [[Eye Contact]]
* [[Facial Expressions]]
* [[Getting Coffee]]
* [[Literal Interpretation]]
* [[Multi-Channel Communication]]
* [[Multiple diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How are you?"]]
* [[Social cues]]
* [[Tone of Voice]]

== Navigating Office & Work Dynamics ==

* [[HR Interviews]]
* [[Job Interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office Gossip]]
* [[Team Building / Work Socials]]
* [[Water Cooler]]

== Dating & Relationships ==

* [[Autistic Love Languages]]
* [[Dating Apps / Online Dating]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask Culture vs Guess Culture]]
* [[High Context and Low Context Cultures]]
* [[Peach and Coconut Cultures]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== How to help ==
* [[Capacity]]

== Mental Health ==

== Specific Learning Difficulties, Dyspraxia, Dyslexia ==
* [[Dyslexia]]
* [[Dyspraxia]]
* [[Dyscalculia]]
* [[Dysgraphia]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

Main Page

2022-08-22T23:39:44Z

Girlsontour:

= Everyone is welcome to contribute to this wiki! =
* You can edit any page without even having an account. Just hit the 'Edit' tab.
* The number one rule of wiki editing is to be bold. Go ahead—make changes. Other people can correct any mistakes you make, so have confidence, and give it a try!
* None of the content here is sacred. Please just make changes! Earlier can always be restored if necessary. These are all collaborative documents.
* Here is a [https://www.mediawiki.org/wiki/Help:Starting_a_new_page short guide] on how to create a new wiki page!

== Actually Autistic terms ==

* [[Allism]]
* [[Autistic Burnout]]
* [[Echolalia]]
* [[Executive Dysfunction]]
* [[Hyperfocus]]
* [[Info-Dumping]]
* [[Meltdown]]
* [[Monotropism]]
* [[Neurodivergence]]
* [[Neurodiversity]]
* [[Neurotypical]]
* [[Stimming]]
* [[Masking]]
* [[Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria]]
* [[Self Diagnosis and Medical Diagnosis]]
* [[Sensory Overload]]
* [[Shutdown]]
* [[Special interest]]

== Sociology 101 ==

* [[Group Dynamics]]
* [[Peer group]]
* [[Power]]
* [[Saving face]]
* [[Social status]]

== Psychology 101 ==

* [[Alexithymia]]
* [[Anxiety]]
* [[Empathy]]
* [[Imposter Syndrome]]
* [[Theory of Mind]]

== Sources of misunderstandings between autistic and neurotypical people ==

* [[Body_language|Body Language]]
* [[Common Sense]]
* [[Defence Mechanisms]]
* [[Double Empathy Problem]]
* [[Eye Contact]]
* [[Facial Expressions]]
* [[Getting Coffee]]
* [[Literal Interpretation]]
* [[Multi-Channel Communication]]
* [[Multiple Diagnoses]]
* [[Responding to "How Are You?"]]
* [[Social Cues]]
* [[Tone of Voice]]

== Navigating Office & Work Dynamics ==

* [[HR Interviews]]
* [[Job Interviews]]
* [[Meetings]]
* [[Networking]]
* [[Office Gossip]]
* [[Team Building / Work Socials]]
* [[Water Cooler]]

== Dating & Relationships ==

* [[Autistic Love Languages]]
* [[Dating Apps / Online Dating]]

== Culture specific differences ==

* [[Ask Culture vs Guess Culture]]
* [[High Context and Low Context Cultures]]
* [[Peach and Coconut Cultures]]

== Autism research ==

* [[Deficit model]]
* [[Gender bias]]
* [[History of autism]]

== Categories ==

There are currently a handful of articles available, across several [[Special:Categories|categories]].

== How to help ==
* [[Capacity]]

== Mental Health ==

Stimming

2022-08-22T23:37:12Z

Girlsontour:

'''Stimming''' is something familiar you do to give yourself a simple sensory stimulation that you can focus on, to help you regulate your sensory data when you have too much or not enough, and to help regulate or perhaps process your emotions.

The practice of stimming is not an exclusively autistic trait (some socially accepted stims are performed regularly by allistics), but it has a special place for autistic individuals; it can help block out the onslaught of raw sensory input that [[Allism|allistic]] people don't get, allowing you to somewhat ignore the chaotic stimuli of your surroundings and instead focus on something predictable, ordered, and repetitive, that you have control over.

It can help calm you down. I've certainly noticed I start rocking my shoulders more when reading something uncomfortable, e.g. glancing at hate speech against a minority group I'm in. (Would that the daily news wasn't filled with such things right now, in 2020s Britain.)

There seem to be two different types of stimming, an unconscious one that everyone agrees is definitely stimming, and a conscious equivalent that some but not all people also see as a form of stimming. I don't know of any terms for these distinctions, so let's call them ''unconscious stimming'' and ''conscious stimming''.

== Unconscious stimming ==

'''Unconscious stimming''', for want of an official term, is what most people think of when you talk about stimming. It's not something you have any control over, it's something you suddenly notice you've been doing for the last few seconds.

You shouldn't suppress the urge to stim. Stimming performs a vital function, helping regulate your mood. *Some* stims might be unhealthy, in which case you can practice healthier equivalents to show your unconscious that these are other available options. But you can't stop stimming altogether, and shouldn't feel pressured to try. Stimming in general is a perfectly healthy thing that autistic people need to do, and as long as it isn't harming anyone, it shouldn't be discouraged. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

In a society consisting solely of autistic people, it would simply be accepted that this is how everyone regulates their emotions, and no-one would think anything of it. Whether allistic people feel the same way is on them.

Next, let's get a little bit controversial.

== Conscious stimming ==

'''Conscious stimming''', for want of a better phrase, is when you decide to give yourself some known, orderly sensory data you can concentrate on in order to block out the chaotic sensory data of the outside world.

You might choose to listen to a song you like on repeat, or calm down to some ambient music, or concentrate on a complex task while drowning out the world with a field recording.

After a stressful day, you might let off steam by jumping on a trampoline, or practicing a martial art, to help regulate your emotions.

These may or may not count as a type of stimming, I'm not sure, and no-one I've asked seems to be sure either. It might be more accurate to say that these are things that ''reduce the need for stimming'', rather than a separate form of stimming in their own right.

Any injury from stimming is non-intentional and accidental! Stimming is often an autistic person's body's attempt to manage sensory input, rather than any attempt to cause harm or injury.

== See also ==
* [[If I'm autistic, why don't I stim?]]
* [[Stims|Types of Stims]]

[[Category: Stimming]]

Stimming

2022-08-22T23:36:44Z

Girlsontour:

'''Stimming''' is something familiar you do to give yourself a simple sensory stimulation that you can focus on, to help you regulate your sensory data when you have too much or not enough, and to help regulate or perhaps process your emotions.

The practice of stimming is not an exclusively autistic trait (some socially accepted stims are performed regularly by allistics), but it has a special place for autistic individuals; it can help block out the onslaught of raw sensory input that [[Allism|allistic]] people don't get, allowing you to somewhat ignore the chaotic stimuli of your surroundings and instead focus on something predictable, ordered, and repetitive, that you have control over.

It can help calm you down. I've certainly noticed I start rocking my shoulders more when reading something uncomfortable, e.g. glancing at hate speech against a minority group I'm in. (Would that the daily news wasn't filled with such things right now, in 2020s Britain.)

There seem to be two different types of stimming, an unconscious one that everyone agrees is definitely stimming, and a conscious equivalent that some but not all people also see as a form of stimming. I don't know of any terms for these distinctions, so let's call them ''unconscious stimming'' and ''conscious stimming''.

== Unconscious stimming ==

'''Unconscious stimming''', for want of an official term, is what most people think of when you talk about stimming. It's not something you have any control over, it's something you suddenly notice you've been doing for the last few seconds.

You shouldn't suppress the urge to stim. Stimming performs a vital function, helping regulate your mood. *Some* stims might be unhealthy, in which case you can practice healthier equivalents to show your unconscious that these are other available options. But you can't stop stimming altogether, and shouldn't feel pressured to try. Stimming in general is a perfectly healthy thing that autistic people need to do, and as long as it isn't harming anyone, it shouldn't be discouraged. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

In a society consisting solely of autistic people, it would simply be accepted that this is how everyone regulates their emotions, and no-one would think anything of it. Whether allistic people feel the same way is on them.

Next, let's get a little bit controversial.

== Conscious stimming ==

'''Conscious stimming''', for want of a better phrase, is when you decide to give yourself some known, orderly sensory data you can concentrate on in order to block out the chaotic sensory data of the outside world.

You might choose to listen to a song you like on repeat, or calm down to some ambient music, or concentrate on a complex task while drowning out the world with a field recording.

After a stressful day, you might let off steam by jumping on a trampoline, or practicing a martial art, to help regulate your emotions.

These may or may not count as a type of stimming, I'm not sure, and no-one I've asked seems to be sure either. It might be more accurate to say that these are things that ''reduce the need for stimming'', rather than a separate form of stimming in their own right.

== See also ==
* [[If I'm autistic, why don't I stim?]]
* [[Stims|Types of Stims]]

[[Category: Stimming]]

Any injury from stimming is non-intentional and accidental! Stimming is often an autistic person's body's attempt to manage sensory input, rather than any attempt to cause harm or injury.

Meltdown

2022-08-22T23:34:12Z

Girlsontour:

A '''meltdown''' is a behavior that happens to autistic people when they are overwhelmed, [[overstimulated]], or feeling other strong emotions.
It is very important to note that a meltdown is not a tantrum. The differences are listed below:

'''Meltdown:'''
* Involuntary
* '''Not''' the autistic person's fault
* Due to emotional or sensory reasons
* Common for '''some''' autistic people (others may experience [[Shutdown|shutdowns]] instead)
* May be unaware of what is going on around them
* May be cognitive dysfunction*
* The person is not likely to have capacity at this time*

'''Tantrum:'''
* Due to someone wanting something they cannot have
* (Uncontrolled) outburst of anger
* Common for younger children
* The person or child will occasionally check other's reactions to see if the tantrum is working
* An autistic person is more likely to experience an autistic meltdown than a tantrum

Autistic Meltdowns can look very different for each individual. Please ask what a meltdown looks like for the individual

Autistic Meltdowns can't be "cured" or "treated", but developing a care plan or prevention plan with the person can be helpful for some.

See also
*Managing Meltdowns - Deborah Lipsky*

Meltdown

2022-08-22T23:33:39Z

Girlsontour:

Tone of voice

2022-08-22T23:25:30Z

Girlsontour:

Often us autistic people don't understand and don't (intentionally or meaningfully) use tone of voice.

Trying to interpret what you understand as "tone of voice" often lead to misunderstandings between Autistic and non-Autistic people.

Please don't try to interpret our "tone of voice".

Please also don't try to communicate through your tone of voice to us.

We will communicate through our words.

Remember to communicate more directly with us, we are not able to imply or suggest anything.

Ask us directly how we feel.

Thankyou.

An Autistic person.

Tone of voice

2022-08-22T23:24:49Z

Girlsontour: Created page with "Often us autistic people don't understand and don't (intentionally or meaningfully) use tone of voice. Trying to interpret what you understand as "tone of voice" often lead to misunderstandings between Autistic and non-Autistic people. Please don't try to interpret our "tone of voice". Please also don't try to communicate through your tone of voice to us. We will communicate through our words. Remember to communicate more directly with us, we are not able to i..."