http://actuallyautistic.wiki/index.php?action=history&feed=atom&title=Ask_and_guess_cultures 2026-04-30T07:36:34Z Revision history for this page on the wiki MediaWiki 1.38.2 http://actuallyautistic.wiki/index.php?title=Ask_and_guess_cultures&diff=2527&oldid=prev 2023-01-31T15:32:11Z

<p>Added second link and a smidge of context</p> <table style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122;" data-mw="interface"> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <col class="diff-marker" /> <col class="diff-content" /> <tr class="diff-title" lang="en"> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">← Older revision</td> <td colspan="2" style="background-color: #fff; color: #202122; text-align: center;">Revision as of 15:32, 31 January 2023</td> </tr><tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno" id="mw-diff-left-l1">Line 1:</td> <td colspan="2" class="diff-lineno">Line 1:</td></tr> <tr><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="−"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #ffe49c; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div>https://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-between-FU-and-Welcome#830421</div></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">'''Ask and guess cultures''' are two different ways of talking: directly, and indirectly.</ins></div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">Essentially, some people would rather directly say what they need and hear what other people need, and are fine with a blunt rejection; other people prefer to spot and drop hints, to spare everyone embarrassment.  Either method is fine, but the two clash.</ins></div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">A very common autistic trait is being unable to encode and decode linguistic [[pragmatics]] (such as [[tone of voice]] and [[body language]]), including [[Implication|implicatures]] (hints).  Those of us with this trait are Ask culture, not by choice, but because we lack the ability to unconsciously encode and decode pragmatics.</ins></div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div> </div></td></tr> <tr><td colspan="2" class="diff-side-deleted"></td><td class="diff-marker" data-marker="+"></td><td style="color: #202122; font-size: 88%; border-style: solid; border-width: 1px 1px 1px 4px; border-radius: 0.33em; border-color: #a3d3ff; vertical-align: top; white-space: pre-wrap;"><div><ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">[</ins>https://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-between-FU-and-Welcome#830421 <ins style="font-weight: bold; text-decoration: none;">An Ask MetaFilter comment] explains the differences between Ask and Guess cultures, possibly coining the terms.  They're expounded upon by [https://medium.com/redhill-review/navigating-ask-and-guess-cultures-in-a-modern-world-30b167f8ab09 a Medium article].</ins></div></td></tr> <!-- diff cache key bitnami_mediawiki:diff::1.12:old-1313:rev-2527 --> </table>

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<p>Created page with &quot;https://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-between-FU-and-Welcome#830421&quot;</p> <p><b>New page</b></p><div>https://ask.metafilter.com/55153/Whats-the-middle-ground-between-FU-and-Welcome#830421</div>

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